The Couple's Repair Lab

You love each other. You keep hurting each other in the same predictable ways. The problem was never how much you care — it's that no one gave you a map.

The Connect-pillar workbook of the MyLifeArch series, built on the R.U.P.T.U.R.E. and Repair Cycle: Recognize the bids for connection you've been missing, Understand the attachment triggers beneath your worst fights, Pause and regulate with somatic tools that work mid-argument, Turn toward with scripts that replace criticism and contempt, Untangle the story your brain makes up, Ritualize repair so connection is a rhythm not a crisis, and take an Empathy inventory that keeps your emotional bank account full.

What you get: 41 pages across a 12-week structure — the Bids for Connection Decoder, the Attachment Trigger Map, somatic cool-down protocols, a library of curiosity scripts, the Narrative Rewrite Workshop, the weekly State of the Union, and the Empathy Bank Ledger. Grounded in contemporary relationship science and polyvagal theory.

For couples who both feel safe and want to repair. If there is abuse or fear for your safety, please reach out to a qualified professional instead.

Format: fillable PDF, 8.5×11 (US Letter) · Delivery: instant download · License: personal use